I have this love-hate thing with listicles. They’re such a guilty pleasure to read but they also inadvertently make you wonder if you’re living up to your potential, whatever that may be and you end up measuring your decisions and self-worth against others’ perceptions.
This listicle though, is a fun one that I mostly agree with. I can’t say I totally agree with it cos well, sometimes a bitch deserves to know she’s a bitch and called out on. There, I said it.
My Facebook feed has been filled with friends’ eulogies for a fallen schoolmate who succumbed to a rare form of cancer. I do not know him personally and I don’t even think I’ve seen him before in the halls back in college. But it’s touching and heartbreaking at the same time whenever you see someone pour their heart out and share memories of the times they had together.
Life really does take you by surprise sometimes and death, unlike life, is the equalizing factor that makes everyone, rich or poor, male or female, young or old, deserving or not, equal. We will all die someday whether we like it or not. There’s no choice you can make nor anything you can do to stop it from happening eventually; and I guess that’s how they say life is fair. The means of dying varies, but the outcome is always the same. It ends.
I can’t say much, if anything about this schoolmate. But what I can say is, short as his life was, it was a good life going by the testimonies of those whose lives he’s touched. Even when he’s gone, he still manages to remind all of us to always treasure the times we have with those that matter to us. He also made sure he went out with a bang the way he manages to unite all of us and remind us of the bonds we have with each other as college-mates, classmates, friends. We’ve all embarked on our own journeys after graduation, but the tight-knit bonds we have with each other, celebrating each others’ joys and sadness will remain. Looking at how everyone has come together to support one another is surely a sign of his victory and final accomplishment here. Because at the end of the day, it’s not the quantity but the quality of your life that matters.
There are days which are both good and bad. Today is one of those. Up till lunch, I was in a surly mood no thanks to a certain individual in the office.
After lunch, it was a different story and I was suddenly taken over by a surge of enthusiasm and excitement to drive a fun and light-hearted project online. I got back to my desk and sent out an email to the entire office to be prepared for a short shoot later in the afternoon. That perked me up a great deal.
I guess it really depends on how you choose to turn your day around, doing something you’re excited and interested about.
Why is it when your heart breaks, just as it happens to humans every day, we feel so alone in one of the most common things we share?
Because in the pain, it brings us all together through its inspiration to songs, literature, and film that show heartbreak is timeless. Heartbreak can teach us empathy and compassion for other people. It can teach us to move on, how to love better and longer, to fix our mistakes and our wrongdoings. We can become stronger individuals and realize our worth is greater than being part of a pair. Maybe this painful thing is actually quite great. Maybe this painful thing shouldn’t be seen as a reason to fear love, but instead inspire us to love again, and again.